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Image copyright Lauren Urasek Image caption OKCupid's most messaged person, Lauren Urasek, also known as loandthecosmos This begins to make sense when you think of things from the perspective of people sending the messages.

And this gives us our first tip. To test how attractiveness might link to popularity, Rudder and his team took a random selection of 5, female users and compared the average attractiveness scores they each received with the number of messages they were sent in a month.

When most people choose their online dating profile pictures, they tend to try to hide the things that make them unattractive.

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It was the couples with the low negativity threshold that had the best chance of staying together in the long run - those who weren't afraid to speak their minds. In one section you can rate how attractive other people are on a scale between 1 and 5.

They're common questions as Valentine's Day approaches - so how do you find the right person and keep them? But the team found that the exact opposite was true. Speak up if something bothers you Even people in the best relationships have arguments.

If you sit around and wait for people to talk to you, you'll end up with the least bad person who approaches you. Play up to whatever makes you different Anyone who's ever joined Boonex dating theme dating website will know the hours of agony picking your perfect profile picture - the one where you had perfect hair, glowing skin and a winning smile.

Then, any girl approached by more than one boy can choose between them, leaving the rejected man to move on to his second choice lady.

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Play up to whatever makes you different - that's the best way to attract the people who matter. People who divided opinion - those that were rated as both very beautiful and very ugly - did far better than those who everyone agreed were quite cute.

Go out and get what you want Imagine you're at a party with a group of single friends, all trying to decide how best to boost your chances of meeting someone.

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They held a negative belief and used bad behaviour to reinforce this opinion. And the maths behind this algorithm comes with an important result: When choosing a profile picture don't be afraid to put some people off.

Because when Gottman teamed up with mathematician James Murray, they were able to translate their findings into a mathematical model. It may seem counter intuitive, but it's been proven by statistics. On the other hand, if you suspect that others may be put off by something quirky in their appearance, there's less competition and an extra incentive to get in touch.

But instead the OKCupid team discovered it was the spread of scores that mattered. But mathematicians have found that the way you argue can reveal your chances of success as a couple.

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This is how negative one partner needs to be before provoking a strong reaction in the other. Hannah Fry, author of The Mathematics of Love, says three things make the magic formula.

This is the exact opposite of what you should do. Because being easy on the eye won't give you an easy pass to online success.

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The method of one group approaching another follows the rules of the "Gale Shapley Algorithm".